I am Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., a licensed clinical
psychologist who practices in New Jersey. I specialize in
cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) for adults with anxiety
disorders. I have a sub-specialty in CBT for
fertility and pregnancy-related anxiety and mood problems. I hope this website will be a useful resource for anyone
interested in learning more about what CBT is and how to access it.
Thoughts on Therapy
Striking a Balance Between Acceptance and Change
In her Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Marsha Linehan stresses
the need for people to strive for both acceptance and
change. That is,
people are encouraged to accept their current life
circumstances, and at the same time, work towards changing
It’s obvious why change is important.
So, why is acceptance important?
Often, people blame themselves for their problems, and
struggle with shame and self-loathing.
Mired in self-blame and negativity, they are unable
to think flexibly about how best to improve their
However, once they learn to accept where they’re at, and
treat themselves with compassion, they are in a better
position to see the options before them and make important
Acceptance work is a critical aspect of CBT for any problem.
Both acceptance and change are critical for treatment
In the News
The benefits of CBT
This article discusses the benefits of (and
misconceptions about) CBT. It also provides guidelines for
ensuring that your therapist uses evidence-based treatments.
"For the Women Who Dread
This moving article, written by a woman who lost a
child, speaks to how difficult Mother's Day can be for many
women, including those who have suffered loss or fertility